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We Need To Talk About Feminism

I think that women – even the majority – of women need to be a little bit angry.

enhanced-32553-1400964926-3.jpgIn my particular friend group, I am known as the “Feminist.” Or, rather, the “Feminist that only gets angry occasionally so we don’t bother to ask why.”

There have been so many instances where I’ve seen either myself or another woman being treated like less than an equal (by both genders) and I say something… and, then, someone mutters something under their breath about my angry Feminism.

“Dude, calm the #@$k down.  He only said he didn’t have to make food if you were here.”

While I do hold that the “modern” Feminism is probably not exactly a good thing, I first enhanced-15175-1400968330-17.jpg
need to explain myself.

What does Feminism mean exactly?

I mean, today, it seems to mean angry lesbians who participate in “free bleed.” Or, women who yell at a man for holding the door for her because she “can do it herself.”

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Yes, I think that some women – even the majoity – of women need to be a little bit angry.

But, not in a rage-y way.  Rage and anger don’t change anything.

Realistically, both genders have their own set of strengths (yes, this is a generalization, but, there is a tiny bit of truth for everyone inside this).

And, generally speaking, women seem to think that, in order to get ahead, they have to “think like a man.”

Isn’t that, in and of itself, demeaning yourself as a free, independent woman? Thinking like a man gets a woman into the thinking that her worth is, somehow, less because the thoughts or actions came from her own head instead of someone else’.

“Women, like men, should try to do the impossible, and when they fail, their failure should be a challenge to others.” —Amelia Earhart

Thing is, that is what the media wants: for women to be trapped into this box-like thinking.

I, honestly, do not even know what their agenda is.  There has to be something.enhanced-20414-1400967175-1.jpg

Getting “ahead” is complete bu!!$#^%, anyway.

The media is something I am very frustrated about.  For all their talk about “women are amazing, unique creatures with so much to contribute,” they also have the complete ass-hat-ery to shove sex in our faces and tell us to not be anything more than slaves to our weight (and appearance) and our ability to please our man.

enhanced-21211-1400967745-1.jpgSee the angry feminism, now?

“A strong woman understands that the gifts such as logic, decisiveness, and strength are just as feminine as intuition and emotional connection. She values and uses all of her gifts.” —Nancy Rathburn

But, what should feminism be about?  As a whole, there are questions deserving to be answered.

Like:

Why do I feel I need to defer to my boyfriend/husband/lover on everything?

(God, that one annoys the crap out of my mother: “that’s what the Bible says to do.” – No, Mom, sorry, it doesn’t.)enhanced-21256-1400968414-1

“Everything” is the term men and some older women like to rub in my face.

“Not all men are like that.”

“Not all women defer to their husbands/lovers/boyfriends on everything.”

“Not all men.”

enhanced-26176-1400967474-6.jpgThing is, what I said was, everything. In bold.  Just to stress it.  Because I could feel the angry people on the internet getting ready to type.

When women start acting like ladies, again, we might see more gentlemen.

When holding doors and standing when a lady enters the room earns sneers from said woman, the men learned not to do it.  No one likes being treated like what they are doing out of respect is something they are doing wrong.

“Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.”―Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Yes, there is so much to cover.

So much that gets buried under a bunch of useless frivol.

“The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who’s going to stop me.” —Ayn Rand

I am so tired of being called a bitch just because I’m tired of seeing injustice.  Tired of being called angry because I question the norms of conversation.

Don’t call me petty for cussing you out for calling some girl a whore.  She may sin differently than you, but you still sin.

I’m tired of being called bossy because I know more (and am more passionate) on a subject or job than someone else.

“The idea of being a feminist: so many women have come to this idea of it being anti-male and not able to connect with the opposite sex, but what feminism is about is equality and human rights. For me that is just an essential part of my identity.”—Lena Dunham

No, do not be an angry feminist.

Be an understanding one.

Stand up for the injustices you see and feel.

When there is a problem, say something.

But, don’t rage.

Be angry, but peacefully.

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